Breakdown your anger and learn how to handle it today as we talk about what to do when anger gets the best of you.
If you follow me on Instagram [which you do, right?] you might have seen a post in which I confessed to having a mild blow up. What I didn’t reveal on Instagram was the fact that it was more than just a mild blow up.
- I was cursing [sooo many F bombs. I’m sorry Lord!]
- I threw stuff [dish towels, but still!]
- I screamed
- I ugly cried
It was bad ya’ll. So, so, so bad. It took me a while to cool down after my meltdown but once I did, I was so ashamed of myself. I’m not known for my “chill” personality – being a red-head means I’m predestined to be a bit of a hot head, but even I was surprised by the anger that came from within me yesterday.
Was I proud of it? Heck no. Was I embarrassed? Sure was. Was I disappointed in myself? Ehh..not so much.
You guys, days like yesterday happen to the best of us. Something small and insignificant goes wrong, adding to a small fire that slowly has been burning until BOOM! it explodes along with your temper. It happens. It doesn’t mean you are a bad person.
There are however, a few different ways you can prevent that BOOM! from ever happening. Below are a few tips to help your regain control when anger gets the best of you. If only I had utilized some of these yesterday!
When Anger Gets the Best of You – How to Combat Your Anger [aka take a chill pill]
1 Take a deep breath
Are there any yogis out there? Honest question here – do you guys ever get angry? The reason why I’m asking is because of all the breathing and self-centering techniques you guys have perfected. I could have really used some of those yesterday!
An almost immediate way to center yourself, a deep breath can do wonder for anger. Deep breathing is so calming, even if it is just one or two breaths, and I have caught myself doing it on several occasions.
2 Go for a walk
Going for a walk doesn’t have to actually be a real “walk.” What I mean here is to just walk away from whatever has got you angry. Ever heard the phrase, “walk it off?”
While physical exertion is an excellent way to get out aggression and anger, simply removing yourself from the upsetting situation is even better. So go for a walk, go get some groceries, take a shower – just do something other than focus on what is driving you crazy. Oh, and take a deep breath while you’re at it 😉
This one goes hand in hand with a deep breath for me. I find that if I can take a deep breath to center myself, then count to 10 or so I can regain control of the situation. And maybe counting to 10 isn’t enough – keep counting until you feel the anger slipping away!
Don’t Let It Ruin Your Entire Day
After my little meltdown of screaming, cursing and crying I was halfway tempted to text Ninja and tell him not to come home for a while. Then I considered begging him to pick up my favorite pizza from Blaze. Then I was tempted to binge eat the remaining Chunky Monkey Truffles sitting in my fridge. And finally I almost put on my gym gear and ran until my legs fell off.
But I didn’t do any of that.
You see, when bad days happen you have one of two choices. One] you can let it completely ruin and take over your day or 2] you can let it go. I chose to let my anger go.
Having a fit of anger doesn’t make you a bad person – we all have those days. It’s not letting that anger control or dictate our actions that is really the important factor. So take a deep breath, go for a walk, and count to ten – do whatever you’ve got to do to shake off that anger and take back your day.
Have you ever blown up over something small and insignificant?
How do you handle your anger?