The Doctor Called Me Fat.

I’m not typically much of a joiner, but since I’m really trying to expand my horizons and get out of my tiny shell, I figured I could try this one out. Amanda shared this on her blog the other day, and I thought it would be a really fun idea and thing to be a part of, so I joined in the fun!

NHBPM-150x150 I’m pretty excited about today’s promp, because it’s something I have to deal with frequently, and unfortunately, I know others do too.

Today’s promp? A conversation with your doctor.

Let me just start off by saying I don’t like doctors. At all. I’ve had one doctor my entire life that I actually trusted, and he was my knee surgeon. He looked at a 14 year girl and instead of calling her a wimp like every other doctor, he believed me. He scheduled me for knee surgery even though all the tests were negative. And he was right. He fixed my torn up knee, and if it wasn’t for him, who knows where my knee would be today.

But I digress.

I know doctors are important. And I appreciate all the hard work and schooling they put in. But when it comes to certain things, they are just dumb. And wrong.

I’ve been called fat by my doctors since I was about 13. My freshman year of high school started with a bang when my doctor told me I was overweight.

Here were my stats:

  • 5’3
  • 140lbs
  • size 7-8 pants
  • medium shirt

Sound overweight to you? Well, according to that wonderful chart called the Body Mass Index, I was overweight.

Here are the doctors exact words, “Well your BMI is too high for your height. You are considered to be overweight. But, you don’t look overweight to me….”

Jeeze, thanks Doc.

Every year of high school I was required to get a physical so that I could play soccer. And every year, my doctor would tell me the exact same thing. My weight never changed drastically, maybe a few pounds higher or lower depending on the month, but each year, the doctor would regurgitate her same explanation. The BMI chart says your fat.

Hearing her basically call me fat year after year did nothing to help the ED I was battling. In fact, it was one of the driving forces. Oh crap, I have a doctors appointment soon. I better stop eating so that I can drop my BMI!

It took me a few years into college before I realized that the BMI chart was a complete load of crap. Did it take into consideration that I was an athlete? Or that I actually had muscle? Or that I didn’t eat fast food? Nope, it just judged me on my weight and height, and so did every doctor.

So like I said before, while I appreciate all the hard work doctors put in, sometimes I’d rather just punch them in the face. Because they just don’t think sometimes. They spew things from their mouths without realizing the effect that they can have. And the BMI chart? Seriously people, can we get rid of that stupid thing?


Do you have a good relationship with your doctor?
Have they ever told you something you don’t agree with?


  1. says

    whoa aka why I hate doctors. I am glad you didn’t punch him, I would have. I have dealt with way too many uninformed doctors both telling me I am not sick enough or outside of my healthy weight range and too heavy. all times not true and way not the place to put it.

  2. says

    Sigh. I hate hearing this kind of stuff. Err… not hate reading it, because I think it’s awesome that you’re sharing this for all the others who can relate, but I hate that it happens. I totally agree that BMI charts are a load of crap and cause more problems than they solve. They don’t take into account body comp, so they screw over athletes with a high muscle mass, and they interfere in people recovering from restrictive eating disorders because girls get sooooo hung up on only gaining enough weight to reach the bare minimum of normal and then they’re not willing to get any healthier. 😡

  3. says

    I hate going to the doctors! I hate that body weight chart too. I’m fit, enjoy life and that includes eating, and am 5’2″ and weigh 120. We all have different frames so its not fair to follow that stupid chart…as long as you’re active and healthy and happy then that’s what matters…we all have room to improve 😉

  4. says

    Oh I feel ya on this one. I once had a yoga teacher who had the class fill out our body info and then told us all we were in the “obese” category (minus the one painfully tiny girl in the class). She then said we would track it every week and see if we improve (sounds fun right?). Needless to say that class was dropped.

  5. says

    Amen sistah!! I HATE that stupid BMI’s a load of CRAP! No one can officially be deemed as any kind of physical state without taking EVERYTHING they do into consideration. Exercise, diet, family name it! I have a love/hate relationship with doctors. Some of them are amazing, they are smart and brilliant to say the least. Sadly a lot of them are also wacko’s that don’t know what they are talking about. I always take the information I get with a grain of salt, and ALWAYS consult a second opinion for the bigger problems. Keep doing what works for you, and obviously never listen to this stupid BMI shat!

  6. says

    I feel like most intelligent doctors these days know that you can’t just go off of the BMI chart. There are so many other factors that need to be considered. Body builders are considered “overweight” on the BMI charts, for goodness sakes!

  7. Nicole Nolen says

    Hate the BMI deal, too. It’s always been gentle on me (I always fall right in the middle of ‘normal’ even when unfit); however, it is cruel to my daughter. She runs and plays soccer. She is active, eats well (thanks to a wonderful day care provider who introduced her to raw veggies and ‘good’ foods at a very early age when I was still doing drive thrus!) and isn’t big on anything but water to drink. But, BMI says she is far. She’s 10, stands at 4’4″ and weighs 71 lbs; the school sent me the fat report and suggested that we look into her diet and encourage activity. Really? She runs 3-5 miles a week (run club at school) in addition to her 6 hours of soccer practice (organized training) not to mention the unofficial play with bikes, games of chase and such with neighborhoods kids and her little sister. Her eats? She’ll take grilled chicken and raw veggies any day over other junk. Just don’t offer sauced ribs! Those she can throw down like her daddy! 😉 She is a kiddo and therefore likes a sweet here and there but will honestly snack on avocado and pistachios more often than not. She is far from fat. I about came unglued! I called her PE coach and told her how I felt and that it’s frap like those dumb papers that contribute to little girls picking at food to become ‘skinny’ as opposed to fat. My daughter worried about being fat for a week until her soccer coach gave me some ‘help’ by showing her his daughters fat report – my daughter was like ‘she’s not fat! That paper is wrong’ and quickly realized hers was, too. Dumb BMI.

    • Kat says

      Im a soccer player too, so I totally get it! Thats more of why I was so upset. I was like are you serious? Im in better shape than you and your calling ME fat?! Im glad your daughter has good people in her life to support her and keep her focused on the right things :)

  8. says

    My dad is having this exact issue with his doc right now. He’s been eating a lot more veggies and fruits and delightful whole grains and asked if he could cut his cholesterol in half – MD said that he has never, in his 25 yrs if practice, had a patient successfully decrease their meds just on exercise/food changes. He also said that because he lost a few pounds since his last visit, he was now technically “overweight” instead of “obese” based off of his calculated BMI. I asked my dad how he calculated it, “by my weight/height” he said. I told him this is a bunch if garbage because 5lbs muscle is the same as 5lbs I’d fat- so my papa could lose all his fat and gain that same # of lbs in muscle and his doc would still call him borderline obese!?

    The only doctors I really respect are ones that tell their patients to stop their meds, up their plant-food intake, be active and let’s monitor your blood levels. Otherwise all they want is a job- and if we’re all healthy and off our high blood pressure/high cholesterol meds, they won’t have a job.

  9. says

    I would’ve knocked him out @ every appointment ((okay not really, but you get what I’m saying)). I think it’s so sad that doctors are so easy to jump on the “you are overweight”, and leave it at that. I truly do believe that’s why so many young women do suffer from an ED. It breaks my heart. So glad you were able to say “F you” and realize that indeed you are beautiful <3

  10. says

    At the weight loss center I work at (for a physician, mind you) we tell our patients ALL the time that BMI is just a “measurement” and has nothing to do with your health. There are so many muscular men that come in and fall into the “overweight” category too– yet they look like they’re made of muscle!

    Thanks for opening up about this Kat! You’re perfect just the way you are :)

  11. says

    WHAT A DOUCHE!!! Seriously, that doctor sounds like a nutcase. Props to you for not killing him haha
    If only doctors knew the impact their words cause on someone who’s battled with ED thoughts. It’s just so disappointing. I’m amazed and proud at your ability to tell his thoughts to eff off, that just goes to show your maturity and strength! You’re GORGEOUS both inside and out, Kat <3 :)

  12. says

    No way in the world are you “fat.” I think you look great. Also, the whole BMI theory has been debunked (whether people choose to believe it or not is another thing)! Don’t let your doctor get you down at all. You’re very pretty and fit and healthy. That’s the truth! :)

  13. says

    The BMI can be very helpful in assessing people in a clinical setting to evaluate if the patient is at nutrition risk. However, I do agree that it really is not a good tool in assessing most individuals. The bmi does not take into consideration muscles mass which does weigh more than fat. I for one feel that I would much rather a person’s bmi be higher due to lean muscle mass than be in the normal range and be “fat” skinny. That person who is “fat” skinny will be more likely to have heart problems, etc regardless of what their bmi is!!!

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