While some people are born with confidence oozing from their ears, many of us are not. Learn how to build self confidence and face your self doubt and fears below.
I’m going to be honest with you guys – I’m not the best with my self confidence.
In fact, unless it involves burpees or weight lifting, I have pretty much zero confidence in my abilities. This is of course thanks to years of disordered eating and thoughts, and even though I’m no where near where I want to be in this area, that doesn’t mean that I haven’t come a long way. I’m actually proud of the improvements that I’ve made and though it is a daily challenge for me, learning how to build self confidence is an area that I am constantly learning and progressing in.
All that to say, I’ve got a long road ahead of me.
The below tips are things that I’ve learned that have helped me learn how to build self confidence thus far in my journey. I hope to be able to add to this list with some help from you guys – so please chime in below and leave me your thoughts and input on the topic!
How to Build Self Confidence
1 Fake it till you make it
I simply don’t believe that someone can be 100% confident 100% of the time. There will always be something that makes you uneasy or unsure of yourself – and that’s ok!
One way to fight back against self doubt and learn how to build self confidence is to simply “fake it till you make it.” Think about it like this: Sometimes all it takes to build self confidence is the illusion of self confidence. You almost need to trick yourself! Walking into a meeting, the gym, or any other situation feeling confident in your abilities [even when you may not be 100% confident in what you are doing] is a great way to trick yourself into feeling better about yourself, even if it is only for a little bit.
Spend some time faking it and pretty soon you won’t be faking it at all.
2 Face your fear
Nothing builds confidence like taking a fear head on. Whether that fear be public speaking, the gym, or even moving to a new town, facing that fear with grit and determination is a great way to build self confidence.
Nothing makes me feel like more of a badass than when I know I am scared out of my mind, but still proceed to do the exact thing that frightens me. For example, I never would’ve known I could squat over 200lbs until I put the weight on the bar and tried. I was so doubtful of my own strength that I pigeon-holed myself into thinking I couldn’t do it, until one day I just said, “why not?” and did it!
Fears, of course, can sometimes be a good thing [they keep us from being idiots sometimes!] but when we allow them to rule our lives and limit ourselves that is when we need to take back control.
3 Accept your weaknesses
Self doubt doesn’t always have to be something negative. I personally like to look at self doubt as an opportunity to grow and strengthen myself.
Though it can be difficult to do, learning to accept your weaknesses is key to building self confidence. The trick here is not to dwell on those weaknesses. When we dwell on our weaknesses we allow them to rule us, shattering any chance we have of learning and building ourselves.
However when we can accept them we can put them to work, using those weaknesses as motivation to keep working, striving and pushing ourselves towards our goals.
4 Remind yourself of your strengths
Now that you’ve accepted your weaknesses it’s time to remind yourself of all your strengths.
Self doubt can be a nasty thing. It can really deprive you of your true self – hiding your talents, passions and strengths from you. Taking the time to write out these strengths and remind yourself of them is one of the best ways to build self confidence.
The trick here is to not limit your strengths to only monumental things. Even the smallest of things should be recognized, whether you think it should or not, because those small strengths can eventually piggy-back off one another to become something huge.
Don’t limit your strengths, embrace them. All of them.
5 Fail often
This one might sound a bit strange, but it is actually my favorite on this list.
Here’s how I see it: If you are failing often that means you are trying. That means that you haven’t slowed down, given up or thrown in the towel on yourself but are still striving towards your goals. This is huge in the confidence game, my friends.
Failing only counts as failure when we give in to it – so fail often, pick yourself up, and try it again. This goes for anything in life by the way, whether it be self confidence or something entirely different.
Linking up with Jill today for the Fitness Health and Happiness link-up!
What are your tips for how to build self confidence?